I'm sure you've seen the scene in the movie or tv series where the girl and guy that try to make things work only to end up in breakup after breakup, fight after fight, lies after lies, cheating after cheating finally do. It's so romantically twisted, isn't it?! We start thinking it's the ending to our story too. So much, we begin to see hope in the toxic cycle we are currently in. We think it's love. The real kind of love. The kind that will forgive limitless lies. The kind that forgives manipulation. The kind that forgives immorality time and time again. The kind that brings out the worst in you.
Let me break it to you, that's not love. It's a toxic cycle that has poisened you to believe this is what real love looks like. It's become completely normal because we created and allowed it. We think
"OMG, if it worked for Anabelle and Leo after all those years and heart break, it can surely work for us too!"
Now, I love a happy ending! Don't we all?! The reality is life has it's bumps and unexpected turns, but it shouldn't have poison. One thing I find interesting is that we can find hope on a TV screen, social media and even the twisted things in life but not in His word.
Our heart is anchored on flesh ground instead of our corner stone!
I don't know the name of that toxic cycle you have been struggling with. Maybe it's a relationship, friendship, addiction, insecurity, financial burden or self esteem. What I do know is that there is hope for your future but it's found in Jesus!
See, God says the plans He has for us are good! To prosper us and give us the ending we hope for. Now, I think what God is saying here is
"I hope you're hoping for my best, not your best!"
God also says, "For I know the plans I have for you"
He already has a plan! He's got the blue prints in His hands, all He is waiting for is that we surrender our plans for His.
Easier said than done right? Cause our plans seem much better, we have full control and access to whatever we want and how we want it.
Question is, how are your plans working for you so far?
Personally, my plans ended in a disaster. Led to heartbreak and confusion. Didn't know which way to go. I learned that God was not waiting for my approval, He was waiting for my release.
There is a voice inside of us that speaks to us. We hear it clearly say; "Get out, before it's too late" "That's not for you" "I'm trying to save you from this" "I'm trying to help you" "I don't want you to feel this way anymore" "Can you hear me?"
That voice you've been blowing off is not you. It's the Holy Spirit. Trying to guide you and direct you to the plans God has for you. So whats holding you back? What's stopping you from getting out of the situation you find yourself in?
The one word that resonates in all of this is FEAR. We fear to let go of cycles because it's all we know. We fear we won't find real love because THIS kind of love is all we've known. We fear that we will fail and let people down because we are not perfect. We fear going for our dreams because, what if it doesn't work? We fear to live by Gods plans because of the unknown future. We fear time. WE FEAR.
My prayer for you today is that you not live in fear but in FAITH!
That you'll begin trusting your creator.
The one who has your blue prints, the one who already knows your story. Why FEAR if He has your happy ending?! My friend, God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power and love, and of sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7) DBT
You are beautiful!
But even better?
YOU ARE FEARLESS!
Go conquer anything TOXIC that has been conquering you!
Look at it straight in the eyes and say "Not today and not EVER again!"